He suggested we share a taxi home. Ive done everything you mentioned him doing. If all the answers are no, go for a walk. But I'm told it's just hormones so after baby's born everything will be back to normal. Tell me why this one kicks off the album. I don't know where else to put this but I need to get it out. Listen and find ways to fix the issue as a team. I'm 8 weeks pregnant and I can't stand my husband. Log Out. I told her they needed to get back to having some of their old life back in which they each did things separately at times. I'm almost 17 weeks pregnant and seriously wondering if I should leave my husband. You might find yourself not only uninterested in sex but averse to him even touching you. What can I do differently to have a different result. think twice before sharing personal details, foster a friendly and supportive environment, remove fake accounts, spam and misinformation, delete posts that violate our community guidelines, reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts. I was the exact same way for my first pregnancy. Many men think of sex as a physical way of gaining and giving pleasure to their wife. Dont get me started on when he starts asking me to do stuff because hes holding baby., Can you get me a blanket? For other inquiries, Contact Us. If I could just have a sliver of hope I would be so grateful. When the husband does a chore its not helping anyways. He wants me tied to the house serving him. We respect everyones right to express their thoughts and opinions as long as they remain respectful of other community members, and meet What to Expects Terms of Use. We ended up writing out a contract of how to conduct ourselves around one another and each party signed it. My doctor put me off work due to being a high risk pregnancy. They will know how to help you out of the abusive situation discreetly. Some women are single moms and they are alone. This educational content is not medical or diagnostic advice. All they know is that if they are not getting it, they are unhappy and will tend to hold it against you. If not checked, such little annoyances can grow to be larger problems. You feel frazzled, and your husband is just chilling out. He'll try to kiss me occasionally and I give him my cheek. I stand and I look a baby clothes Hard to describe- tense/lactic acid feeling? A spark alone wont help if you arent able to share your concerns and frustrations. But if you are just waiting for him to agree with you, then you must do whatever it is you want to do and he will have a choice about whether to stay with you, or to leave. Gosh my husband is exactly the same, like congratulations, youve bathed the baby, now Ill just go around and do all the chores around it (put dirty clothes in the laundry basket, throw away old diaper, drain the bath, tidy up the bathroom, prepare his sleeping clothes etc etc. He may not know hes doing it and its impact on you. Doesnt notice when I have done it. I can't stand my wife. Your post will be hidden and deleted by moderators. at most if he hasnt finished it but started something else or the kids distracted him ill gently remind him (we believe he has ADD and are looking into getting him diagnosed). My husband use to be very kind and caring but changed since I became pregnant. Also wants me to buy big thing like a 2700 dollar treadmill now he wants a different bike, he says the one we have is a piece of junk but I have no problem with it. He'a verbally and emotionally abusing you and I hope you see this. By Chris. I don't want him to touch me, talk to me or anything! Set boundaries. hahaha this is my husband too! He sounds active. You can both learn how your actions have created this harmful cycle. I feel like shes taken words out of my mouth! New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Can't stand my husband: im probably being a bitch right now but I can't stand my husband right now, everything he does annoys me. But for a marriage to work, both partners must respect each others priorities and provide support when needed. When I was reviewing what my client was telling me, I felt sad for her but also realized her emotions were all over the place. Same goes for me, not so much hates though, He just annoys me so much. In other words, an extremely unpleasant experience for me. But I dont know what to do and am afraid he will stalk me if I go off and live somewhere else. Omg , yessss!!!! 2005-2023Everyday Health, Inc., a Ziff Davis company. Things have to be his way almost all the time. She is a complete Karen who will literally demand a manager for every perceived sleight and it is fucking embarrassing as hell. Sometimes a husband wants to be a better parent but is intimidated and anxious. He will be more willing and ready to understand what he needs to do differently to please you. Create an account or log in to participate. We arent deliberately withhold sex from them as punishment. My girlfriend told me that she and her husband dont get along anymore either and they have issues in the bedroom also. Glad there is a place where we can spill our problems without hurting our relationships, yup exact same thing happened to me, if he even looked at me wrong i wouldnt wanna talk to him for 3 days, god forbid he say no to a food i was craving or didnt jump up immediately to help me if i needed it. It's the way he eats, smells, snores, and oh man don't get me started on that annoying breathing lol. It coincided with the pubs opening, so a gang of us went out for a proper catch-up. The woman I was consultingwith was unhappy and miserable. Saying and doing simple and kind things each and every day to and for each other is a powerful love potion. I feel very grateful for my partner as well after reading from some of these comments. I cant stand my awful husband and am miserable, she declared. To see all content on The Sun, please use the Site Map. A Group Leader is a What to Expect community member who has been selected by our staff to help maintain a positive, supportive tone within a group. He has no clue what turns on a woman. I guess its that way for most everyone. Help Me, Heidi! I rarely smoke, I have here and there, but it's really not Other husbands want to avoid the stress at home, so they pour themselves into their work. Of course, her husband wanted their sex life to improve. In came from an insecurity that if she was out having fun with some else, then he must not be good enough for her. One of the guys hadn't been working with us for long but he came along too. It can be hard to open up this dialogue, but sometimes it is necessary to get past the little (or large) resentments that have accumulated over time. I can't even stand to peck him on the lips. No thanks! A Group Owner is a member that has initiated the creation of a group to connect with other members to share their journey through the same pregnancy & baby stages. Even using the term withholding with regards to sex shows that you see sex with his wife as a mans right. I sometimes wonder how my dog isn't bald lol. His response was I work and your a lazy sow :( I feel crazy for being so upset, I know the hormones are raging and I know I am sensitive. What is our biggest communication problem? Some women have lower expectations of men than others. Sex with a man I dont respect, trust, admire, etc. . Im having a termination and its all booked. haha! Explain how having your own life and sense of individual freedom, turns you on. Im due March 22 and over the past few months I get this random, less than a minute, feeling of my whole body being super tense. Share kindness, support and compassion, not criticism. Exercising excessively or not at all can also cause problems getting pregnant. Eventually, she went from barelybeing able to stand her husband to a place where the two of them had committed to start over and appreciate each others space and offer each other the gift of kindness. If you do, plan to run by saving money secretly. Theres a difference between loving someone and being in love with them. This isn't my first pregnancy but I've never had this issue. gotta do it to live but damn could you just NOT. So glad we dont live together , All men are the same . He controls everything and I feel trapped and used. Keep the conversation on one topic, and dont switch subjects. If you want something done YOUR way , you do it YOURSELF. Meaning you cant make ppl do things exactly our way. Everytime he opened his mouth to speak I was either horrified by most everything he said or bored to tears. Its not! Divorce is only changing one set of problems for another. However, some people grow apart. You havent seen eye-to-eye in a while, and its not improving. I got that problem too. Once you both build positive communication skills, all the other problems become easier to solve. He can no doubt see how remorseful you are and how difficult it must have been to admit your infidelity. To a wife who wants their husband involved, all of the above reasons can still produce frustration. I am like his play thing. Like you know where it goes. If youre at risk, seek help from professionals like counselors and doctors, or call the abuse hotline. Now is a different story. I know I could have it a lot worse but is it possible to suffer from postpartum depression before the baby is even born. No kids yet and only married for three miserable years. English is not my first language). Im 39 with two wonderful children, aged ten and 12, and I regard my husband as a best friend. Can you recline the seat for me? This is critically important. It seems that my clients marriage had disintegrated to such a point that little kindness was being demonstrated. All rights reserved. He did laundry last weekend and left the babys clothes in the basket! No. It is very rarely 50/50, even in the healthiest of relationships! But OMG since pregnancy he absolutely stinks! After 20 years, I can't stand my husband. He's very understanding though and I have learned to just take a deep breathe and know it's my hormones! Use of this site is subject to our terms of use and privacy policy. When you have time to spread your wings and do things that you enjoy by yourself or with friends, you come to appreciate the other things in your life. Im ambitious and want to be free to do things. If your sex life is flagging, my e-leaflet 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex is packed with ideas. Any act or comment that seems dismissive or insulting only makes things worse. If you find a solution, please share. I fear we are no longer compatible. This! The chores always seem to get done before we go to bed and we never wake up to a dirty/messy house Even if it means that I end up doing them all after the baby is asleep (this is also usually when I will discover my half completed tasks from earlier in the day ). We strive to provide you with a high quality community experience. 2) is he annoying me on purpose? I knew what he had in mind but was drunk enough to accept. I don't hate my husband but I definitely get a lot more annoyed with him for no reason at all. Can't stand my husband! NO ONE should tolerate being treated the way he is treating you. Kids love feeling helpful. Otherwise you dont really know what he needs. Like yes he doesnt help with a lot of things that I see but he does different things. Voice your opinions to your husband see if hes even noticing it or how he feels. Haha! Reminder to all: watch out for a creepy pedo posing as an OT/speech therapist giving fucked-up potty-training advice, and don't sweat it if your post gets 1 or 2 instant downvotes. Part of her marriagedifficulties were due to her own high expectations and poorly chosen actions and the couples inability to strike at the heart of the problem. Any information found here is not intended to be a substitute for direct consultation with a medical or mental health professional. Alone wont help if you arent able to share your concerns and frustrations for reason! The way he eats, smells, snores, and dont switch.... 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